When you blow up or blow it, here's what you must do.
Pray, confess your sin to God and ask for forgiveness. *1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.*
Talk to your child.
Go to your child and tell him you are sorry. Don't make excuses for sin. Don't put the blame on him. Admit your mistake and ask him to forgive you.
Deal with the issue in a constructive manner.
When you have given yourself enough time to calm down and put your thoughts together, sit with your child and discuss the matter and if necessary give consequences. Explain to your child that although you shouldn't have acted in that way, you must still enforce consequences. Some children, seeing that you are sorry for blowing it, may think that they are off the hook. Not so. If there was disobedience on the part of the child consequences must be handed out. Just make sure you are gentle and kind and explain calmly what those consequences are.
Preventing blow-ups in the future.
Begin each day in prayer and pray throughout the day.
Ask God for the grace you need to be a gentle mom.
Make sure you are getting enough rest.
Eat right. (Low blood sugar always leads to a grouchy mom.)
Memorize scripture. (Hide God's word in your heart that you might not sin.)
Stay in the Word. Soak it up every chance you get.
Recognize situations that will lead to blow ups and do what you can to avoid them.
Don't let things build up until there is an explosion. Deal with sin the first time it rears it's ugly head (in you and in your child).
Remember that anger is only one letter different than danger. Anger is most damaging to your relationships with your children. Satan seeks to destroy family relationships and anger is one of his best tools.
Give up the guilt. If you've asked God to forgive you and you repented of your sin, move forward. Satan loves to heap the guilt on us moms. We are forgiven and we must remember that. There are no perfect mothers! All mothers make mistakes. Beating yourself up with guilt only weighs you down. It's a new day. Make it the best it can be.