It's been one week.
I've had plenty of opportunities to yell, but I haven't taken them.
Well, not all of them.
I almost wrecked the other day. After the scare and slamming on my breaks I sort of raised my voice to one of my boys in the backseat. It was my worst slip up so far. I have apologized. The boy I apologized to said, "Aww Mom, that was nothing." Unfortunately he's heard worse.
A couple of nights ago I went into my son's room and found clean laundry I had given him to put away, on the floor. In a semi-loud voice I called his name. "You're not going to yell at him are you?" my husband said. I didn't.
I gave a little schoolwork lecture the other night. One that I've given 100 times before. I didn't yell. It was a miracle.
So...all in all I'm doing a lot better. The above really is an improvement. I had almost gotten to the point that I was yelling every single day, and sometimes several times in the same day. Not. good.
I will be checking in periodically with an update, but here's what I've learned so far:
- Internal issues affect external behavior. This sentence comes from my dear sister and it's total truth.So many times when I yell there is something else going on inside of me that makes the goofing-off-in-the-kitchen-that-leads-to-a-spilled-jug-of-milk seem so much worse.
- I'm not alone. I have received many texts and emails this week. I could never have imagined! Whatever your struggle, don't struggle in silence. Christian sisters can do a lot for each other if we are willing to put ourselves out there.
- My kids are WAY happier and talk to me a lot more about their lives when I'm not mad. My moody child has been in a marvelous mood all week. I asked him if he thought he was in a good mood because I hadn't been yelling. He said, "YES".
- Parenting boys is different than parenting girls. Parenting teens is different than parenting small children. Parenting in a large family is different than parenting in a smaller one. It is a complete waste of time to compare yourself to others. I can say without hesitation, if you don't have a home full of boys who are teenage and tweenage, well...you just don't. {PSA - Unless you've been there, done that...please don't say been there, done that.}
- And one more thing, Satan is slick, but he's not all that. Our God is way bigger!
Great job on this week!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for the encouragement, Missy!
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